Hi, I’m E. I’m a Miss to some, and Milady to others. I hope you enjoy my blog.
If you’re new here, you should know that this blog contains BDSM, kink, poly and gender explorations, and explicit Sadiomasochistic content. All sex and kink acts depicted are between enthusiastically consenting adults.
In BDSM, limits refer to issues that participants in a play scene or dynamic feel strongly about, usually referring to prohibited activities. Participants typically negotiate an outline of what activities will and will not take place. The participants outline what they desire or will not tolerate, including the determination of limits. For example, it is common to set a safe word and to establish certain types of play as prohibited. ~Wikipedia
Egalitarian relationships are something I’d red light off the cuff. May then ease into into a yellow light with time. I’ve never had one that didn’t turn into some sort of abuse; actual physical abuse, outright neglect, self abuse, or a combination of all three. Self abuse being that I curbed my personality, slammed the breaks on ever making demands that would even hint of ultimatums… I questioned my self worth and, sometimes, my sanity.
I would let myself get run away with emotions about people I hardly knew… Gloss over all the flaws until I was completely emotionally invested… Then realize I’ve given too much without getting anything positive back…
Egalitarianism is very hard for me because the lines of what’s “fair” is so blurred and left up to interpretation that it takes constant navigation and two completely involved parties. I feel it is more of a pipe dream for most who attempt it, and the pipe dream’s black sheep cousin for my own personal way of living.
The idea of my submitting gives me a headache. Vanilla dating gives me enough stress without tilting the power exchange against me. No.
Online Financial domination:
I’ve done it, once. I felt like a sex line operator trying to keep him on the line. I didn’t like it. Nor do I like the position of power it accidentally put him in, as he started expecting things and my morality concerning “customer service” caused me to feel like I had to. I want expectations to be clear,rather than all the wishy washy requests and general disrespect.
That said, I am curious about Real Time clear cut d/s flavored sugar baby scenario s
Flip side of the above:
I love to spoil my boy(s), once they’re established as mine. I’m open about my income so anyone interested knows I’m not a free loader and have established the basic form of adult responsibility. I find it entirely inappropriate for anyone to ask to borrow money if I don’t have easy access to breaking your knees when I don’t get it back. The thing is, I don’t lend out money unless I absolutely know I can live without it- with the expectation that it would be nice if you paid me back. I did make a FOOD care package for a boy the was under consideration, but food is entirely different from cash. Putting you under consideration means nothing but that I’m dedicating time to getting to know you and eking out whether we’re a match.. Not that I trust or love you or wouldn’t mind lending you cash. That comes later, after actually meeting in person. Experience with your personality. You know. Reality.
Reciprocation concerning nude photos:
I have been blackmailed with nude photos before. Not in the “Oh this will be so humiliating to all your facebook friends” kind of way. But the “You won’t get the job you’ve been looking for for 18 months because I’m showing this to your possibly future boss,” kind of way. You either see my curvy sexy body in person, or not at all. The end.
Cyber and phone sex:
Cyber just doesn’t do it for me. I can’t even read erotica, more often then not. The words so rarely do it, when I’ve had it in person for so long. Don’t bother to offer; I won’t be remotely tempted. When I do write erotica, I skip over the intercourse part near entirely. Scenarios of power exchange are much more erotic than any described juices flowing. I actually have enjoyed phone sex. I really like sounds. Only with people I’ve gotten to know. Example: Someone I’ve spoken in depth with for a month and then I OFFER. Don’t ask for it or you’ll get blocked. ew.
Similar to cyber sex, unless it’s used to tease my boy. But I know him. And I’ll get to come home and tease/use him in person a few hours later. Not interested in strangers, it bores me just as much as cyber sex does.
I have not one maternal bone in my body towards those in diapers or who are just freshly out of them and I don’t want to watch an adult pee/poop on anything, drink from a bottle, or talk in baby speak.
Believed female supremacy:
Mostly, I just don’t feel it. I would break into giggles at myself the first time I even portrayed it for fun. I can’t take it seriously, but respect those who feel that way about the female sex. I don’t think less of them for it.Elaborated thoughts here.
True non consent is not safe in a legal way, and I’m not willing to risk it. “forced bisexuality” sounds too much like “rape” to me. Although you may air a wish to be forced, I have to know that that is actually a “wish.” AKA, “I want this and this to happen. I’m letting you know I would enjoy that.” As long as consent is involved, I can get into it. However, I have a heavy preference to watch boys who like boys playing with boys. So, forced isn’t really my preference, and I don’t seek it for that reason.
Toilet Play/scat/urine/catheter play:
I was a nurse aide for 4 years, and I remain in the health field even now. I’ve seen all sizes, shapes, amounts, and smells. It’s not sexy. It’s not clean. I’m not doing it.
I hate seeing needles go into my own skin. I don’t avoid it, but I only submit to a needle when I have to. I’ve never found blood pretty, nor does it have a very nice smell or taste. I associate cutting with people who have emotional problems, even though logically I understand masochists just have different receptors. I won’t do it to you and if you’re with me, I’m not interested in watching or encouraging the action.
Although I’ve joked with my boy that I get the benefit of legally enjoying his “boy” looks, kids are kids. And today, kids are even less mature, despite the amount of sex on tv. Then there is the legal risk. Not interested.
I just think it’s wrong. I have strong vegan like values, and I don’t think an animal is capable of consent. Not much need to elaborate on that.
Breath Play/true non consent:
Dangerous. Not doing it. On the latter, it’s dangerous in a legal way.
I plan on getting married in 2013, despite not actually believing in marriage as it is most often portrayed. I don’t need a piece of paper that allows the government to be further invasive about my relationships. I do think of marriage as an interesting right of passage, like actually going to the Graduation Ceremony of Highschool. Would you have graduated anyway even if you hadn’t gone? Yeah. When it comes to dating already married people, the idea feels uncomfortable, but I’m not against it. I would want to know how your poly relationship worked and, if we dated more than 5 seconds, a little un organized chat, because I’m a curious person and it would make me feel more comfortable and trusting regarding both of you consenting to my relationship with you, the male married person.